when we seek answers, we should look back on the question to see why it was even asked.
then, as we contemplate (maybe) we can ask, "what would happen if I had...?"
but as i've stated before even to myself, it's mostly a learned process. it becomes a choice between: " what do i need to make this decision easier for me?" or "how should this question be betrayed about me?"
how about: " if I had only answered it in another way instead, i would not have to make this choice..."?
but the question should really consist of these purposes: "there will be no more questions on this life's journey that i can not have as an answer from the choices given to me ...
and, so by them i can then make it happen from what i think is best for me...
it's my choice, you see!