when we seek answers, we look back on the question to see why it was even asked.
then, we contemplate (maybe), "what would happen if I had...?"
but as i've stated before to myself, it's mostly a learned process. it now becomes the choice: " what do i need to make this decision easier?" or "how would the question even look like: " if I had answered in another way instead?"
but the question should really consist of: "there will be no more questions on this life's journey. it's answer from the choices that I needed to make...
whatever decision I do decide to take, it will be my choice that i will clearly need to live with!"